I’ve been happily married for sixteen years and love my wife. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Recently, I’ve found myself extremely attracted to my wife’s best friend. She’s all I can think about lately. Nobody knows me better than my wife and I fear that she will catch on eventually. What am I supposed to do? Should I supress these feelings? Should I mention something to her or to my wife? What’s the right thing to do here?
You’re not the only person to be in a dilemma like this. We all eventually find ourselves attracted to another man or woman at some point in our marriage. It’s common and what we do about it is what matters.
Every person and situation is different. I don’t know you, your wife nor do I know anything about your relationship. If you can enlighten us a little, maybe we can provide you with a more detailed answer.
What I will say though is that cheating on your wife with her best friend is definitely not a good idea. Not only will you probably get caught, but you will devastate the person you love most and destroy her self-esteem forever. Not to mention her relationship with her best friend and your relationship with your children if there are any in the picture.
Is her best friend attracted to you? If so, do you have an open marriage with your wife? Is bringing a 3rd person into the bedroom even an option? If so, you can try to get your wife to suggest a threesome with her. Never suggest this yourself though. All you can do is take your wife by the hand and let her come to that conclusion herself. It has to be HER idea otherwise you’re in for a world of hurt!
With the little information I have about your case, all I can suggest is that you steer clear of forging any type of secret relationship with this woman no matter how addictive she may be. You seem to be in a happy marriage which is more rare than you might think and jeopardizing this bond would be a real shame. Regrets will follow and they WILL haunt you for the rest of your days.