wanting a threesomeHello, and thank you for taking the time to read my question. My girlfriend has finally agreed to a threesome with another woman. We haven’t gone as far as selecting a third person yet. Do you think it should be a close friend of ours or someone we never met before? What is usually the best case? Have you got any advice for us to enjoy the threesome without damaging our relationship? Thanks, K.

A threesome with two women is the ultimate male fantasy. It can be the most memorable night of your life and It can also be something you both regret afterwards. Sometimes, the relationship does take a turn for the worse after including a third person into the bedroom.

In this case, nothing is more important than communication.

Whether you should bring in a friend or an unknown stranger, should be left entirely up to her. Let her make this decision and go with whatever she feels more comfortable with. This is a delicate situation and there is no right and wrong here. What’s important is making sure everyone involved is comfortable and there are ABSOLUTELY NO DOUBTS. I can’t stress this enough.  More often than not, the slightest doubt will cause the night to take a turn for the worse.

Establish the rules beforehand. Make sure you and your partner understand what goes and what doesn’t during the threesome and follow these rules no matter what.

Do not exclude anyone. Make sure everyone is getting attention and no one is feeling left out. This is the most common mistake men make when bringing another woman into bed. The excitement of a new prospect can easily distract them. Do not let this happen to you. Make sure your girlfriend receives the same, if not more attention than the newcomer.

Stay safe, make sure all parties are protected from disease and unwanted pregnancy. Especially when bringing in a stranger you’ve never met before.

The best places to look for a third party to include in your threesome if you do decide to go with a stranger are usually swinger’s clubs. Look for a local swinger’s club near you. Read up on the conduct of members before attending and make sure you know what you’re getting into. All swingers clubs differ and its best to have a little knowledge on a specific one before attending.

Another great option is, of course,  the internet. There are tons of men and women that would be more than happy to join a couple for some uninhibited good times. Members of sex dating sites are usually up for pretty much anything given the fact that most of them are open-minded and adventurous.sex dating sites are usually up for pretty much anything given the fact that most of them are open-minded and adventurous.

Best of luck, I hope you truly get the experience you’re hoping for and you enjoy yourselves without running into any trouble.